I CAN'T DECIDE! - 3 Helpful Steps for Indecision

I am indecisive.  In fact I was just wondering if I should write; I can be indecisive.  Which one is better?  Which one is right?  Those two questions taunt and haunt me.  When faced with choices it can be almost debilitating to try and figure out what’s better and what’s “right”. 

What if both paths look good??

When I’m feeling indecisive, I’m not in the flow of my energy.  And because I’m not in the flow, I am actually draining my energy and joy from life.  I can actually feel it.  I feel it in the pit of my stomach, it feels turbulent and sick, I feel it in my head in the form of chaos – my thoughts tumbling around without any focus, and I feel it in my emotions, I feel frustrated, angsty, uncomfortable and sometimes angry. 

Indecisiveness is difficult because sometimes life is truly giving us two or more great choices at any time.  The key for me, is to realize that there is not a right way and a wrong way, it’s just one way, the way we choose and then the consequences of that choice.  It’s true, some decisions will bring about negative consequences, if they are not aligned with our highest and best self; but that’s life.  And with each decision we make, we get closer and closer to our true self. 

HOW TO DEAL WITH CREPE-Y SKIN - 3 STEPS

Yes I have crepe-y skin, AND I still show my legs!

Crepe-y, drape-y, dry, “old” looking skin…IS THERE ANYTHING WORSE? Well, yes, but it’s it’s definitely at the top of the list of cringe worthy, despair inducing, feelings of hopelessness in the beauty realm.   Why?  Because not only do we think it looks “bad”, but also because it induces feelings of panic that one is getting older, doesn’t look as good, or is less desirable, or has less clothing options.  It also includes feelings of insecurity, where we feel exposed in the world, lest someone see our imperfections and judge us; and mostly because it’s just so darn hard to fix, “cure”, or deal with in a way that leads to satisfaction.  Whew!!

So if you’ve ever encountered or dealt with crepe-y skin then you know what I’m talking about.  If you haven’t, go enjoy your life for goodness sake; or read on so you can be prepared if and when it happens to you.  But no matter where you fall on the crepe scale, you can probably benefit from the following suggestions, tips and tricks.  These are the things that work for me.

When You're In a Rush, Slow Down

Nothing is more important than the present moment.

Someone once told me that when you’re in a rush, slow down. I can’t tell you how many times that simple phrase has helped me. Contrary to popular belief, rushing doesn’t get us anywhere faster or get anything more accomplished.  

Rushing also adds undo stress that exacerbates the goal we are hoping to accomplish. From driving too fast to doing too many things at once; rushing seems to do more harm than good.  When we rush, our breathing is shallow and raised, our thoughts are chaotic and overwhelming, and we feel out of control like we are spinning our wheels and getting nowhere. 

Rushing robs us of joy and perpetuates the exact feelings and actions we are trying to avoid.  As crazy as it sounds, sometimes stopping an doing the exact opposite is the sanest and quickest route to peace of mind and accomplishing our goals.

B.Y.O.B. - Be Your Own Best-Friend

Learning to be your own best friend is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Why? Because best friends always have your back and you can count on them to lend an ear or a helping hand. A best friend will love you and support you and tell it like it is; but will never run you down. As a matter of fact, if anyone talks smack about you, a best friend would be the first one to come to your defense.  Best friends are invaluable, so being our own is definitely worth our while. 

Best-friends challenge you and make life more fun!

When we are someone's best friend, we pride ourselves on being their champion. We see their beauty, charms, talents and their immense potential for whatever they want. We see clearly who they are and how precious and special they are; we are their biggest fan and strongest supporter. I have been lucky enough to not only have a best friend in my sister, but to have numerous besties throughout my life.  

Take Control of Your Life – 5 Practices That Help

Life's a journey.  Choose the paths that best serve you!

We are the gatekeepers of everything we put in our bodies.  We actually choose the food, the thoughts, the emotions, the exercise; everything that we put into and do to our bodies.  It can feel like our thoughts are random and outside of ourselves and that we don’t have any control over them.  It feels like our emotions are out of control and that they do whatever they feel like.  We even feel as if our food choices or the types of food we eat are not our own.  We say things like, I could never give up sugar or I have to eat meat every day, I hate vegetables, or I'm not pretty; and we take these statements as the gospel, like they came from someone other than ourselves and were given to us. 

It’s amazing to think that we have in many ways given up our say in our mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health and well-being.  We say over and over to ourselves what is wrong, like there is nothing to be done about it.  We think to ourselves and reinforce a small aspect of our experience and make that “who we are”.  I am overweight, I have allergies, I am depressed, I hate so and so, I could never do that…whatever “that” may be; and once we label ourselves or our parents do or our friends or peers or a stranger; we make that a truth about us that is set in stone and cannot be changed.