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| Let’s ask for what we want! |
Ask and ye shall receive. This is one of the most popular quotes, but how can we apply it in our everyday lives? Many of us don’t really know what to ask for, how to ask, or to whom to ask. But one thing is clear, if we don’t ask, we’re probably not going to get it.
By starting the practice of asking, we begin to accomplish two things; one, we start to become more aware of who we are and what we want, and two, we articulate to others what we want, so they can give it to us. People cannot give us what we want unless we know what that is. No one is a mind reader; no one I’ve met anyway.
Many of us walk around the planet upset with our loved ones, co-workers, strangers and even God because we’re not getting what we want. People don’t seem to understand us or they disappoint us in some way – everyday. But most of the time we haven’t given them the information they need or we haven’t asked for what we want, so pleasing us is more of a crap shoot than a bull’s-eye. And whose responsibility is it to figure out what we want anyway?
So let’s start asking. The worst thing that can happen is we don’t get it and we already don’t have it, so we really don’t have anything to lose.
Ask Yourself
Start by asking yourself, what do I want? Let’s get clear on what we want; from the smallest things to what we want to be when we grow up. Each decision helps to build the life of our dreams. From dreaming about what kind of dessert we want, to dreaming of the perfect house, job or partner. Asking helps us to get clear on who we are, what’s important to us, where we’re going and who we want to be.
Ask Your Loved Ones
Why is it that we are afraid to have honest conversations with the people who are supposed to be the closest to us? Maybe we’re afraid that if they really knew who we are, they won’t love us anymore. The important thing is not why, but to face our fears and be our true selves. If you want to see a friend, ask. Don’t wait for them to instigate it. If you want to clear the air with someone, ask to have a conversation. No matter what it is; ask. Give your loved ones the information they need to make an informed decision. Don’t keep them guessing.
Ask Your Partner
There is a misguided assumption that if you ask for something from your partner, it doesn’t count. I’ve heard many people want something from their mate like flowers, but they want them to “figure it out”, or to “want to do it on their own”. They think a sweet gesture “doesn’t count” if you have to ask for it. Nonsense! If you think your partner is perfect or a mind reader, then get them to the circus fast, otherwise, you better be prepared to educate your partner on who you are and what you want. It is not your partner’s responsibility to know this intuitively. You must tell them and ask for what you want. If you want flowers, ask. If you want to dress up and go out, ask. Do not set someone up for failure and you for disappointment by not asking, and then resenting them for not delivering.
Ask Your Co-Workers and Supervisor
If you want to advance in life, you better be prepared to go for it. If you want a job, a promotion, more money, jeans on Friday, better coffee in the break room, ask. Knowing what you want, finding the right person to talk to and then asking is one secret to success. Asking the right questions, to the right people will take you far, not to mention make you happy. Asking is throwing your hat in the ring, being part of the conversation and letting people know who you are and what you want. When you get something off your chest or out of your head, it feels good. Conversations in our heads rarely get us what we want.
Ask God
This is my favorite because God doesn’t talk back; he takes his own time and works in her own way. I learned from a neighbor to ask God for things when they are lost, and by George, it has never failed me. Since then, I have learned to ask for anything and everything. I realize that this is a form of prayer; how great is that? The Universe is all around; therefore you can ask whenever and wherever you are. If you’re stressed, ask for peace. If you’re confused, ask for guidance. If you’re angry, ask for patience. ASK! Sometimes I just ask “be with me”. Asking helps us to slow down, reach out and connect. No matter what God is to you, the spirit of the Universe is always available.
Life is a crazy ride so we might as well ask for what you want; who knows we may just get it. Oh, don’t forget to say please and thank you.